You are using "word size" to mean "memory addressing unit size", and while you are clear about this, its clash with common usage makes your comment somewhat confusing to read. But, doing the mental translations, I think everything you said is correct, even though much of it would be false if interpreted in accordance with the usual definitions.
Usually "word size" means "register size" and a "16-bit architecture" is one with a word size, in that sense, of 16 bits; that is, one whose architectural registers are 16 bits wide. That describes all the CPUs in my list, I think. The definition necessarily gets a bit ambiguous on machines with multiple register widths like the CDC 6600, the 8080, the 8086, and the 80386. But usually on this basis we say the 6600 was 60-bit (despite its smaller address registers), the 8080 was 8-bit (despite its 16-bit register-pair instructions) and so was the 6809, the 8086 was 16-bit (despite AH, AL, etc.) and so was the 65816, and the 386 and 360 and 68k and VAX were 32-bit.
I suspect that standardizing on 8-bit byte addressability was largely due to the influence of the 360, which didn't use ASCII. ASCII (a 7-bit code) was probably a significant influence, but it fit as nicely into 9-bit PDP-10 bytes as into 8-bit bytes, with space for a 512-character character set.
One minor quibble on the PDP-11: though addresses were 16 bits, as you probably know, later PDP-11 models supported split instruction and data spaces, with separate code and data segments. This doubled the memory available for a normal user program over what an Apple ][ could manage without bank switching. Later versions of PDP-11 Unix required this capability for some larger programs, though I don't remember which.
I think the status of the VAX as "the first modern computer" is pretty debatable. Other defensible candidates might be the IBM 801, the IBM PC, the SUN workstation, the Alto, Berkeley RISC I, Stretch, the CDC 6600, the IBM 360, the IBM 360 Model 91, the IBM 360 Model 67, and the Acorn Archimedes. But the VAX definitely has a plausible claim to that title.