If you want know what calculus-y words mean, you're going to need to learn calculus. People use calculus-y words to quickly convey things professionally. That's why it's a "topic" for you to learn. The thing under discussion is a limit.
This seems to be quite a bit of a strawman to me.
ML is such a major part of the field today and at a minimum requires a fairly strong foundation in calc, linear algebra, and probability theory that I earnestly don't believe there are that many CS students who view calculus as "useless". I mean, anyone who has written some Pytorch has used calculus in a practical setting.
Now in pure software engineering you will find a lot of people who don't know calculus, but even then I'm not sure any would decry it as useless, they would just admit they're scared to learn it.
If anything, I'm a bit more horrified at how rapidly peoples understanding of things like the Theory of Computation seem to be vanishing. I've been shocked with how many CS grads I've talked to that don't really understand the relationship between regular languages and context free grammars, don't understand what 'non-determinism' means in the context of computability, etc.
The practical question is whether you think it's ok to continue propagating a rather crude and misunderstanding-prone idea about Big O. My stance is that we shouldn't: engineers are not business people or clients, they should understand what's happening not rely on misleading cartoon pictures of what's happening. I do not think you need a full-year collegiate course in calculus to get this understanding, but certainly you cannot get it if you fully obscure the calculus behind the idea (like this and uncountable numbers of blogpost explainers do).
Not really, if you ever listen to CS undergrads or people in non-traditional schooling (bootcamps, etc.) talk about software engineering this opinion is essentially ubiquitous. People interested in ML are less likely to hold this exact opinion, but they will hold qualitatively identical ones ("do you really need multivariable calculus/linear algebra to do ML?"). It is precisely because people (primarily Americans) are scared to learn mathematics that they rationalize away this fear by saying the necessary mathematics must not be essential, and indeed it is true that many people get away without knowing it.
First, software engineering doesn't just consist of Computer Science majors. We have a lot of people from accounting, physics, or people who have no degree at all. Teaching this concept in CS fixes very little.
Second, and complimentary to the first, is that asymptotic behavior is derivative of the lessons you learn in Calculus. You can't really full understand it beyond a facade unless you have a rudimentary understanding of Calculus. If you want to put this theory to the test then ask someone with a functional understanding of Big-O to write asymptotic notation for a moderately complex function.
I don't have a degree and in order to really understand asymptotics (and Big-O as well as the others) I read a primer on Calculus. It doesn't take a ton of knowledge or reading but a decent background is what will get you there. I do think we need a lot better continuing education in software that goes beyond O'Reilly style technical books that could fill this gap.
I have no idea what's up with those disciplines, but it's an almost universal reaction to them. Unless people are very clearly and directly using them all the time, they just get dismissed.