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ikmckenz ◴[] No.42474139[source]
Teens aren't doing drugs, smoking, drinking, or having sex. And the suicide rate has never been higher.
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mmooss ◴[] No.42475794[source]
> Teens aren't ... having sex.

Nor are people in their 20s (that is, both groups are having much less sex). That is the most worrying thing to me. People are not even engaging in the most fundamental, unavoidable, pleasurable human drive.

They seem very much like traumatized people, on a massive scale, just trying to survive.

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globular-toast ◴[] No.42478380[source]
I'm starting to think many people just aren't into sex that much, in the same way many people aren't into food.

Many people just get hungry and inhale the most convenient thing they can to scratch the hunger itch. McDonald's is always busy. People would be there on Christmas day if it was open. These people aren't into food as pleasure, they just don't want to be hungry. Of course with meal replacements bottles etc McDonald's isn't even the bottom of that particular barrel.

It's the same with sex. I've met people who define themselves by their sexuality. They consider it a primary pursuit in life. But for others it's just scratching an itch. I've realised I'm basically that way. It doesn't mean that much to me, it's just something my body makes me do. Porn is now everywhere and more easily accessible than drugs. People are now able to reach for McDonald's or the meal replacement, but for sex.

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mmooss ◴[] No.42482307[source]
You should do what you feel, of course, and there is no right or wrong. I still think that, generally, we have evolved to have a strong sex drive and to very much desire and enjoy it.
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1. globular-toast ◴[] No.42485470[source]
My point is it's not just sex drive. Do people who enjoy fine cuisine get more hungry than everyone else? I very much doubt it. There are just other things to do now and sex (and food) can be a very small part of a rich and fulfilling life.

But I'm not disputing that this is (or will be) probably a problem. Not because of sex specifically, but because of people having no meaning in their lives. In less than a decade we might be facing a bunch of enslaved virgins approaching 30 realising they have nothing in life. No assets, no relationships, no family, and no prospects. Tik Tok isn't going to work out for 99% of them. It's going to be interesting.

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2. mmooss ◴[] No.42488062[source]
> Do people who enjoy fine cuisine

IMHO that would be the analogy for 'great sex' rather than for 'sex'; that is, it would be for people who are motivated to have especially 'good' sexual experiences.

I think the analogy for sex generally is basic hunger - food rather than starvation. Our sex drive, generally speaking, is that fundamental.