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Bye, Mom

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149 points reducesuffering | 1 comments | 14 Dec 25 08:21 UTC | HN request time: 0.233s | source
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decimalenough ◴[14 Dec 25 09:58 UTC] No.46261986[source]▶
It's difficult for me to reconcile her grief at the loss of her mother with the horrific abuse her parents inflicted on her. (Mostly her father, to be fair, but with the full knowledge and consent of her mother.)

https://aella.substack.com/p/the-joy-is-not-optional

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1. duxup ◴[15 Dec 25 02:13 UTC] No.46269617[source]▶
When I used to work with abused kids long ago I recognized that a lot did not make sense when I talked to them. I realized later in life that remained the case for many in adulthood. Outside those who completely disconnect from their families I think it's hard for most of us to understand.

I always assume humans, even those abused, still have those same experiences, and even positive connections to family even within the cloud of abuse ... it makes things confusing for the rest of us I think but I think humans are driven to find those bits of connection regardless how our parents behave.