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My stages of learning to be a socially normal person

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631 points eatitraw | 2 comments | 15 Nov 25 13:24 UTC | HN request time: 0s | source
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SirMaster ◴[17 Nov 25 19:52 UTC] No.45957491[source]▶
Why do we need to be normal anyway? Why can't we just be unique?
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Thossndjsj ◴[17 Nov 25 23:19 UTC] No.45959587[source]▶
Most people from what I've seen don't want unique as much as they want somewhat famailiar. If it deviates too far away from that then they are repulsed, and I can give you an example right here.

I'm going to commit suicide. I've known this for the last 15 years. It'll probably be another 10 years before I'll die, but I know my end is half laying down with a 1.5 inch nylon strap tied cinched on my neck and a tree trunk in the dead of night so that no one will be able to find me in time. The reason I haven't is because I'm taking of elderly relatives, but they are the only reason I'm still here.

That's the real me. The one that looks forward to dying even though there doesn't seem to be any reason why I want to die.

I wonder how many in this thread would be utterly horrified by this vs accepting of this.

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1. dirtybirdnj ◴[18 Nov 25 01:47 UTC] No.45960486[source]▶
I am taking care of an aging and physically limited parent. It's brought me to my absolute limit. I often say stuff about wanting to be dead but I don't think I've ever been serious about it. It's the kind of thing I am trying to discourage in myself, but I'm trying to be more compassionate with myself in the times that I do.

Why are you so certain? 15 years is a long time to look down that barrel why do you deserve that?

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2. Thossndjsj ◴[18 Nov 25 13:50 UTC] No.45965912[source]▶
I don't know if I can answer that well; it's like me asking you how you can be certain you love someone.

But my best attempt would be to say... There hasn't been any contraindications to make me think that think that suicide isn't the correct choice in the end. It feels right to me.