60k kids have avoided peanut allergies due to 2015 advice, study finds

There's a certain wealthy area near me where restaurants ask first if you have allergies, and ice cream shops ask if dairy is ok. My wife and I always joke, "we're in that part of town."

Is the joke that they are respectful with regards to allergies? Or am I reading a bit much of an attitude into your comment? Because it comes off as rude and tone deaf.

With a child that has PA on anaphylaxis-level and has had such an reaction a couple of times, and she has thusly built up a fear and anxiety, not being able to casually just let her attend b-day parties etc etc etc, I can assure you it's not a joke to us.

And no, we are not overly clean, in fact love going outdoors into the woods and getting dirt under our fingernails. Nor did we hold her off peanuts when small, her first reaction came when she just had learned to walk at about 10 months and ate a tiny piece found on the floor. And we as parents work very hard on trying to have a casual attitude towards life and work on her anxiety, and not let the PA define who she is or does. But then something like last week happens - those who make the food for school messed up her box of food and she ate mashed pea pattys and got really, really bad, worst in years. Boom, all her confidence in school down the drain.

It's heartbreaking, really. To find her have all that fear and pain, and we can only do so much to help her with that. And it's heartbreaking to see it being a joke to some. When I see such attitudes, I try to think that it comes from someone who is living a happy-path life, and well, good for you.

Thanks for coming to my TED talk, and smash that bell button.

18 years of restaurants checking in, and we did everything we could to be respectful of allergies but the onus was always on the customer to tell us. Now when I go to places to eat they ask me, which is a different approach and like comment OP one I find much more often in more expensive restaurants. I think you're reading way too deep into this comment. What do you think, chat?

I just think it seems hugely inefficient for a waiter to ask hordes of non-allergic people for allergies for every one allergic person that could just as well announce theirs.

So what? It's a trivial kindness and it takes a few seconds. What else were they going to do with those seconds? It's different if it's fast food, where maximizing people I/O does matter. But that's not the case here.

Further if the restaurant asks ahead of time, that's a signifier that they take it seriously. If you have to tell them, it's much more likely you will encounter cavalier treatment of cross-contamination and such. For some people, that really can be life or death.