Replacing a $3000/mo Heroku bill with a $55/mo server

Looking at the htop screenshot, I notice the lack of swap. You may want to enable earlyoom, so your whole server doesn't go down when a service goes bananas. The Linux Kernel OOM killer is often a bit too late to trigger.

You can also enable zram to compress ram, so you can over-provision like the pros'. A lot of long-running software leaks memory that compresses pretty well.

Here is how I do it on my Hetzner bare-metal servers using Ansible: https://gist.github.com/fungiboletus/794a265cc186e79cd5eb2fe... It also works on VMs.

How do you get swap on a VPS?

Search "linux enable swap in a file"

    To enable a swap file in Linux, first create the swap file using a command like sudo dd if=/dev/zero of=/swapfile bs=1G count=1 for a 1GB file. Then, set it up with sudo mkswap /swapfile and activate it using sudo swapon /swapfile. To make it permanent, add /swapfile swap swap defaults 0 0 to your /etc/fstab file.

Strongly suggest you try doing that on a VPS, then report back