Are we decentralized yet?

We're more decentralized in fedi but we're also not really consistent either. Which I think is the number one gripe for users who manage to get into the fedi.

I don't mind, I still think it's a huge leap forward, but it's important to set realistic expectations.

What do you mean by consistent?

(Never used the fediverse, so zero context here).

Not who you're replying to, but one issue is that different users will sometimes see a different subset of replies to a post, depending on what the server they're using has copied from other servers.

This isn't correct. Mastodon merged fetch-all-replies in March. https://github.com/mastodon/mastodon/pull/32615

The only difference in visible replies is in the moderation choices of the server the post is viewed from.

Yes but it's off by default for a reason, it's not realistic to expect every node to fetch all messages.

This is a catch 22 because the reason fedi is more decentralized is because of the low barrier of entry to run a node, but at the same time that low barrier means it takes less resources because it does not fetch every single message and piece of media.