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439 points david927 | 1 comments | | HN request time: 0s | source

What are you working on? Any new ideas which you're thinking about?
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stonlyb ◴[] No.44418894[source]
https://inlovingmem.com/ - is a tribute to my recently deceased mom that I vibe coded over the last week. I felt her life deserved to be celebrated widely but wanted to be sensitive to her privacy. I've also built in a number of interactive features for participation in funeral services etc, before, during, and after.

Folks have reached out about having an 'In Loving Memory Of' site for their loved ones, so I'm turning this into a side business to help out more with my (now widowed) father's retirement and care.

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rollinDyno ◴[] No.44419726[source]
I'm sorry for your loss.
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kurtis_reed ◴[] No.44423799[source]
You killed her?
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NotAnOtter ◴[] No.44426988[source]
I'm cynical in general, but this type of stuff always sticks out. "I'm sorry for your loss" from one nameless headless stranger to a different nameless headless stranger feels as sincere as an AI bot, and that's to say it absolutely isn't.

Same as people saying things like "Don't say no one loves you, because I love you <3" but it's in a forum like this, or on Reddit. You don't know them. you don't love them.

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jolmg ◴[] No.44427219{3}[source]
You don't need to know them to empathize with them.
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NotAnOtter ◴[] No.44427269{4}[source]
But is it real empathy? Did they actually pause and feel bad and convert their emotional response to some written message?

Or did they just short circuit. "Dead relative -> Say sorry for your loss". Like an AI bot.

It's the second one.

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1. pmcjones ◴[] No.44428844{5}[source]
One of my younger brothers died a few weeks ago (he was 67; I'm 75). When people offer sympathy, I accept it and don't question their motives or involvement.