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Ask HN: What Are You Working On? (June 2025)

439 points david927 | 9 comments | 29 Jun 25 20:21 UTC | HN request time: 1.345s | source | bottom

What are you working on? Any new ideas which you're thinking about?
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stonlyb ◴[30 Jun 25 03:07 UTC] No.44418894[source]▶
https://inlovingmem.com/ - is a tribute to my recently deceased mom that I vibe coded over the last week. I felt her life deserved to be celebrated widely but wanted to be sensitive to her privacy. I've also built in a number of interactive features for participation in funeral services etc, before, during, and after.

Folks have reached out about having an 'In Loving Memory Of' site for their loved ones, so I'm turning this into a side business to help out more with my (now widowed) father's retirement and care.

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1. rollinDyno ◴[30 Jun 25 05:25 UTC] No.44419726[source]▶
I'm sorry for your loss.
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2. kurtis_reed ◴[30 Jun 25 14:30 UTC] No.44423799[source]▶
You killed her?
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3. NotAnOtter ◴[30 Jun 25 19:32 UTC] No.44426988[source]▶
I'm cynical in general, but this type of stuff always sticks out. "I'm sorry for your loss" from one nameless headless stranger to a different nameless headless stranger feels as sincere as an AI bot, and that's to say it absolutely isn't.

Same as people saying things like "Don't say no one loves you, because I love you <3" but it's in a forum like this, or on Reddit. You don't know them. you don't love them.

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4. jolmg ◴[30 Jun 25 20:00 UTC] No.44427219{3}[source]▶
You don't need to know them to empathize with them.
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5. NotAnOtter ◴[30 Jun 25 20:05 UTC] No.44427269{4}[source]▶
But is it real empathy? Did they actually pause and feel bad and convert their emotional response to some written message?

Or did they just short circuit. "Dead relative -> Say sorry for your loss". Like an AI bot.

It's the second one.

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6. ◴[30 Jun 25 21:03 UTC] No.44427848{5}[source]▶
7. pmcjones ◴[30 Jun 25 23:02 UTC] No.44428844{5}[source]▶
One of my younger brothers died a few weeks ago (he was 67; I'm 75). When people offer sympathy, I accept it and don't question their motives or involvement.
8. smoyer ◴[01 Jul 25 00:56 UTC] No.44429520{5}[source]▶
NotAnOtter smells like IsASkunk ... Why not just sit this one out instead of crushing the sentiment? I lost no mom in February and appreciate when people offer their condolences. And I'm this case, when I offer my condolences, I have at least some idea of what they're going through.
9. stonlyb ◴[01 Jul 25 02:59 UTC] No.44430161[source]▶
Thank you. I for one appreciate the curtsey of expressing sympathies. I don't question the motivation or whatever. It's just a kind gesture.

I will note that I'm trying not to think of her death as a loss. It certainly is in many ways for grandkids and others who were just starting to get to know her. But for the rest of us, I like to think we have a part of our deceased loved ones with us that we now have the responsibility to cary forward.