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Half the men in Seattle are never-married singles, census data shows

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118 points blondie9x | 3 comments | 13 Apr 25 14:36 UTC | HN request time: 0s | source
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elric ◴[13 Apr 25 14:50 UTC] No.43673203[source]▶
How many of these never-married men are in a relationship? Unmarried != single. Stats on the number of singles who have never been in a relationship would be far more valuable.

Relationships, sexual or otherwise, are not subject to paperwork. The days of relationships, sex, or even reproduction being tied to marriage are long gone.

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jimbob45 ◴[13 Apr 25 14:56 UTC] No.43673245[source]▶
Anecdotal but my friends don’t try at all anymore or they don’t put in any effort and pretend that’s not their problem (read: you need to shower daily).

It’s stupid because the combination of singles mixers, tinder, and community events make it very easy to find a partner (keeping them is another story) but nobody wants to try. I’m of the opinion that porn has sapped their will to find women, even though it’s very possible to have a healthy relationship with porn and men have indeed had healthy relationships with porn throughout recorded history.

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parpfish ◴[13 Apr 25 14:59 UTC] No.43673278[source]▶
Or maybe the porn gives them everything they need from a relationship and we’re seeing that there’s a larger segment that genuinely doesn’t need/want to be in a relationship.
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rileymat2 ◴[13 Apr 25 15:08 UTC] No.43673343[source]▶
This boggles my mind, porn only takes the place of a very small part of a healthy relationship.
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aacid ◴[13 Apr 25 15:18 UTC] No.43673399[source]▶
I have currently some relationship issues so I might be biased but I keep asking myself what will I miss if not in relationship except sex that cannot be supplemented with family or friends… I've yet to find the answer.
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1. parpfish ◴[13 Apr 25 15:20 UTC] No.43673420[source]▶
I wouldnt be be surprised if there’s already a “relationship free” movement/group/trend similar to “childfree”.
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2. Jensson ◴[14 Apr 25 00:17 UTC] No.43676901[source]▶
There is, it is called MGTOW.
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3. budro ◴[14 Apr 25 23:05 UTC] No.43687256[source]▶
Vibes are totally different though. People go childfree by choice, whereas men go MGTOW because there __is no other choice__ (that they find easy or preferable). I've heard it described before as "men sent their own way (MSTOW)", which is fitting since one usually identifies with the label after many unsuccessful relationships.