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Half the men in Seattle are never-married singles, census data shows

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118 points blondie9x | 3 comments | 13 Apr 25 14:36 UTC | HN request time: 0s | source
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elric ◴[13 Apr 25 14:50 UTC] No.43673203[source]▶
How many of these never-married men are in a relationship? Unmarried != single. Stats on the number of singles who have never been in a relationship would be far more valuable.

Relationships, sexual or otherwise, are not subject to paperwork. The days of relationships, sex, or even reproduction being tied to marriage are long gone.

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jimbob45 ◴[13 Apr 25 14:56 UTC] No.43673245[source]▶
Anecdotal but my friends don’t try at all anymore or they don’t put in any effort and pretend that’s not their problem (read: you need to shower daily).

It’s stupid because the combination of singles mixers, tinder, and community events make it very easy to find a partner (keeping them is another story) but nobody wants to try. I’m of the opinion that porn has sapped their will to find women, even though it’s very possible to have a healthy relationship with porn and men have indeed had healthy relationships with porn throughout recorded history.

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parpfish ◴[13 Apr 25 14:59 UTC] No.43673278[source]▶
Or maybe the porn gives them everything they need from a relationship and we’re seeing that there’s a larger segment that genuinely doesn’t need/want to be in a relationship.
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rileymat2 ◴[13 Apr 25 15:08 UTC] No.43673343[source]▶
This boggles my mind, porn only takes the place of a very small part of a healthy relationship.
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1. jfengel ◴[13 Apr 25 15:19 UTC] No.43673407[source]▶
Many people do a lousy job of looking after their own health, including their mental health.

Having all of your sex come from porn is like having all of your meals come from McDonald's. And that's a choice you can make. It's probably not the best choice, but a fair number of people do in fact make it.

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2. watwut ◴[13 Apr 25 20:18 UTC] No.43675543[source]▶
Then again, if what you primary want from relationship is sex, then it is better for everyone if you either use port or hop on some one-night-stand kind of scene/app.

Because stringing along some poor soul that looks for actual relationship and let her waste months to figure out this relationship was never going to happen sux.

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3. jfengel ◴[14 Apr 25 00:08 UTC] No.43676864[source]▶
True. Though it does help to have some close female companions at some point in order to be able to see what that one night stand looks like from her point of view. Too many men do not understand why she has to be cautious and how to assuage those fears, and end up blaming women for it.