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Treating bullying as everyone's problem reduces incidence in primary schools

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175 points PaulHoule | 1 comments | 16 Nov 24 14:34 UTC | HN request time: 0.2s | source
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matt3210 ◴[16 Nov 24 21:03 UTC] No.42159310[source]▶
I hate to be this guy, but being bullied in school is a direct cause of my success in software (and my failure in relationships I guess). I retreated to academics because I was unpopular. I was unpopular in school now I am popular professionally (All the LinkedIn recruiters love me).

I don't mean to say bullying is good but I personally am thankful to my high school bully for keeping me focused on computers (Thanks Fred, I owe you a beer next time we run into each other).

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1. ta-9wMnYzFJ4w3g ◴[17 Nov 24 02:42 UTC] No.42161559[source]▶
That comes across as some intense Stockholm.

I personally see my accomplishments as in spite of the bullying, not because of. And I'd wager this is a fair bit more common of a view.

My bullies were not "keeping me focused on computers" when they dragged me, kicking and screaming, into a stall in a restroom against my will, with the stated intent to further assault me further, including dunking my head & face into a shit-clogged toilet.

I could do without having lived through the verbal abuse, the physical assault, the panic attacks decades later, and the mental disorders that I now am trying to conquer through therapy.