Maybe "Bullies to Buddies"?
https://www.izzykalman.com/
""We will never win the war against bullying by trying to convince people to stop being bullies. We need to teach people how not to be victims!
(Izzy Kalman, Nationally Certified School Psychologist)"
Also from there: "What does the research show? The most highly revered and intensive anti-bullying programs rarely produce more than a minor reduction in bullying and often lead to an increase. A large-scale study conducted by the University of Texas at Arlington found that kids who attend schools with anti-bullying programs are more likely to be bullied than kids who attend schools without such programs. Why? And how can schools determine what is more likely to be effective? ..."
And: "Bullies to Buddies teaches how to understand the Golden Rule as a scientific, psychological formula and how to apply it in real life. It provides materials and training to students, school staff, mental health professionals, and parents. Because the lessons are simple yet counterintuitive and taught largely via entertaining role-plays, they enable people to quickly understand their mistakes and how to rectify them. Rather than teaching students that they need to rely on others to protect them from each other, Bullies to Buddies teaches them how to solve their social problems on their own.
What students learn:
* The “optical illusion” that causes bullying
* How to use the Golden Rule to stop being bullied without anyone’s help, including dealing with:
* Verbal attacks
* Rumors
* Physical aggression and threats
* Social exclusion
* Cyberbullying
As a result, kids grow in happiness, resilience, independence, and emotional maturity. These techniques will unleash their sense of humor and make them more popular with their peers. And they will get along better with their parents, teachers, and siblings."
To be clear, Izzy Kalman also outlines situations where the approach works (e.g. teasing, name calling, rumors, shoving) and where it doesn't (e.g. serious physical violence). And he also points out that while the approach may greatly reduce issues it may not resolve all issues. There is a certain low-level of social negativity people have to learn to live with (as contrasted with "zero tolerance" policies where people can learn to game the system to use it to bully others).
There is a videos section on the site with a a couple dozen of videos. Example showing in general the distinction between most programs (modify the entire social environment) and what Izzy Kalman suggests (train the person suffering in skills of resilience and social interaction):
"The Golden Rule System - Simple Solution to Bullying"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVVAx_kGM7w
Example showing to learn to deal with (mild) physical aggression:
"Magic Response for Physical Aggression" - Bullying Prevention for Educators"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lRPusaSSqqE
Example of Izzy Kalman applying ideas to recent violent events:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/resilience-to-bull...