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Treating bullying as everyone's problem reduces incidence in primary schools

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175 points PaulHoule | 1 comments | 16 Nov 24 14:34 UTC | HN request time: 0.249s | source
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matt3210 ◴[16 Nov 24 21:03 UTC] No.42159310[source]▶
I hate to be this guy, but being bullied in school is a direct cause of my success in software (and my failure in relationships I guess). I retreated to academics because I was unpopular. I was unpopular in school now I am popular professionally (All the LinkedIn recruiters love me).

I don't mean to say bullying is good but I personally am thankful to my high school bully for keeping me focused on computers (Thanks Fred, I owe you a beer next time we run into each other).

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1. kypro ◴[16 Nov 24 23:15 UTC] No.42160393[source]▶
I'm also glad I was badly bullied as a kid, but for other reasons. In my case it forced me to stop being a physically and mentally weak person and I don't know how that could have possibly have happened without bullying.

I'm also glad I had people around me who pushed me to overcome the bullying rather than telling me I was a victim of it. In my experience people who are taught they are a victim of bullying who most struggle with it. These people believe bullying t be abnormal and expect the world to fix it. But unfortunately bullying is normal and unless you learn to overcome it you'll always be at risk of being a victim of it