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Treating bullying as everyone's problem reduces incidence in primary schools

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175 points PaulHoule | 1 comments | 16 Nov 24 14:34 UTC | HN request time: 0.387s | source
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matt3210 ◴[16 Nov 24 21:03 UTC] No.42159310[source]▶
I hate to be this guy, but being bullied in school is a direct cause of my success in software (and my failure in relationships I guess). I retreated to academics because I was unpopular. I was unpopular in school now I am popular professionally (All the LinkedIn recruiters love me).

I don't mean to say bullying is good but I personally am thankful to my high school bully for keeping me focused on computers (Thanks Fred, I owe you a beer next time we run into each other).

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1. OliveMate ◴[16 Nov 24 22:56 UTC] No.42160197[source]▶
I hate to be that other guy, and I in no way way want to override your own experiences but... I'm sure my experiences with being bullied have actively hindered me in my life, even 20+ years on. Particularly dealing with confrontation, this constant feeling of 'otherness' around others, and frequent nightmares about people I used to know.

Again, the other reply about not really knowing how you'd turn out applies to me, but it's hard not to think about it.

I don't want to come off like I'm shilling my blog, but last year I finally opened up about being bullied. The second post on the matter specifically talks about how I feel about it as an adult: https://callmeo.live/blog/childhood-bullying-ii-aftermath/