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0_gravitas ◴[] No.41915417[source]
> Combine multiple families in one household.

> Adopt multigenerational living.

> Cut your commute. Sacrifice space to relocate around work, or sacrifice pay to work closer to home.

Most of these suggestions are detached from reality, I don't move away from my family because I feel some arbitrary social expectation, I do it because I want space and freedom. Maybe for the few that are both A) highly extroverted and social, and B) happen to have a good relationship with all of their family members/friends family, this could appear pleasant.

Another option is to simply not have kids, no one is forcing you (outside of possible familial pressure, all the more reason to keep a healthy distance...)

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1. octokatt ◴[] No.41919005[source]
> Most of these suggestions are detached from reality, I don't move away from my family because I feel some arbitrary social expectation, I do it because I want space and freedom.

I'm going against the grain a little here, and say that's reasonable. Not all families are great to live with. Heck, I had some cousins I tried living with and nearly permanently damaged my relationship with them.

I will say deciding to live with an extended _found_ family can be awesome. There's usually someone around to help pick up slack, and there's nothing quite like the relationships you can form based on that extended time together.

Even the extended found family thing, though? Not always great. I'd say what communal living does is make for higher lows, and sometimes lower highs. If you're in abundant circumstances where you have multiple close relationships and survival/logistics aren't an issue, it's largely unnecessary -- but if you aren't, it's really worth trying.