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"Somebody Tranq That Child!"

(taylor.town)
30 points surprisetalk | 3 comments | 22 Oct 24 14:09 UTC | HN request time: 0s | source
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0_gravitas ◴[22 Oct 24 15:41 UTC] No.41915417[source]▶
> Combine multiple families in one household.

> Adopt multigenerational living.

> Cut your commute. Sacrifice space to relocate around work, or sacrifice pay to work closer to home.

Most of these suggestions are detached from reality, I don't move away from my family because I feel some arbitrary social expectation, I do it because I want space and freedom. Maybe for the few that are both A) highly extroverted and social, and B) happen to have a good relationship with all of their family members/friends family, this could appear pleasant.

Another option is to simply not have kids, no one is forcing you (outside of possible familial pressure, all the more reason to keep a healthy distance...)

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1. graemep ◴[22 Oct 24 16:28 UTC] No.41915965[source]▶
> A) highly extroverted and social, and B) happen to have a good relationship with all of their family members/friends family, this could appear

Only B is required. Why would you need to be extroverted to live with your family!?

If you do not have a good relationship with your family that is the real problem.

Why not cut your commute. Working from home has been so liberating.

> Another option is to simply not have kids, no one is forcing you

Most people want to have kids. They are the most fulfilling thing in most people's lives. Its an option, but it means giving up a lot so is anything but "simply".

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2. 0_gravitas ◴[22 Oct 24 16:57 UTC] No.41916253[source]▶
I hope you understand that "why not cut your commute" is a highly privileged question; I'm happy its been easy for you, but wfh is not a guarantee in most lines of work, and neither is reasonable CoL anywhere; wherever you live, you still need to pay bills (and not to mention that the process of moving itself is rarely easy).

And there's a lot of things I would love/want to do that I "simply" don't, because I either can't afford it, or its otherwise incompatible with my current position in life/security. This is part of being an adult.

And I have a decent relationship with most family members near me, but spending time with them is still eventually mentally exhausting, I moved out for a reason. I suspect more extroverted people do not experience such exhaustion from continued socializing (which would obv be more frequent in a multigenerational/multifamily home), so thats why I mentioned it.

3. tmtvl ◴[22 Oct 24 17:28 UTC] No.41916544[source]▶
> Why not cut your commute. Working from home has been so liberating.

For people who work as, say, a crane operator at a loading/unloading dock it's exactly a simple thing to ask ships and trains to come all the way to your house. Same thing for bricklayers, warehouse workers, cashiers, librarians, archeologists, prison wardens,...