Pretty sure between Dr. Dre and Willie Nelson weed got normalized decades ago by any definition I understand.
Weed might be "normalized" in some communities, but a large portion of Americans will silently judge you if you are a recreational drug user regardless of it is weed or cocaine or fentanyl. Contrast to, say, beer or wine, which the majority of Americans will not silently judge you for indulging in moderation.
In point of fact, it's often flipped around. It's only been the last few years that I can tell someone I don't drink and be met with lots of, "Good for you!"s rather than silent judgement.
But you're right. I'm not drinking again, and people are way less likely to question that choice now. I can't remember the last time it was questioned, actually.