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vmception ◴[] No.27673471[source]
> Before the pandemic, I’d shudder at the sight of a restaurant table full of people all staring at their phones. I was always happy not to be them or be sitting with them. I always kept the lively conversation flowing at my table.

I always thought this perspective was funny because it always assumed what the people on their phones were doing. The assumption is that they are disengaged with each other when it's just as likely that they are talking with each other in a group chat alongside a few other non-present participants in the same group chat, and all trying to share photos with each other that they just took from the outting beforehand, or setting up a way to split costs in advance, or something else equally or more interactive than a conversation you can eavesdrop on.

Usually it's just shitty UX slowing them down.

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saiya-jin ◴[] No.27673930[source]
Same crap no matter what... can't believe I am feeling old school for actually wanting to interact with people eye to eye when meeting them. Luckily all our friends have same approach, so we either don't have phones with us at all (because why really), or somewhere in deep pocket and untouched for whole evening. Refreshing feeling, one should try it from time to time
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1. vmception ◴[] No.27674019[source]
you're only "old school" because you can't imagine the reasoning or are projecting what you would do with a phone and are avoiding. you are imagining that everyone else just showed up at that point and disengaged. could be the case, could not be, you can't distinguish and it isn't your role to. Healthier to assume they aren't disengaged, if you must assume anything.

other reasons I would have my phone with me would be for the uber/shared ride to and from the location, to potentially pay for the meal or incidentals, to potentially take photos, to share my location with someone looking for me usually in that group that hasn't arrived yet, or continue sharing my location to people I always do. I hear this last part is taboo, but maybe even text message someone.