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How to Get Kids to Do Chores: Does the Maya Method Work?

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unit91 ◴[04 Sep 18 01:02 UTC] No.17905867[source]▶
How it works in my house:

"Son, do your chores please."

"Yes, sir."

Done.

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colechristensen ◴[04 Sep 18 01:21 UTC] No.17905948[source]▶
I've never met anyone who referred to their parent like that who didn't have at least a marginally abusive family life.

It is plainly offensive to address kin as "sir".

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nyolfen ◴[04 Sep 18 01:43 UTC] No.17906036[source]▶
this is completely fucking ludicrous. it's a regional custom.
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1. colechristensen ◴[04 Sep 18 02:43 UTC] No.17906236[source]▶
Hitting disobedient children is also a regional custom.

If your children respond to orders like trained animals or soldiers, they are doing so because they were conditioned to do so. I am choosing to define that conditioning as abusive because it simply doesn't happen naturally.

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2. eboyjr ◴[04 Sep 18 03:02 UTC] No.17906300[source]▶
My dictionary defines abuse as "cruel and violent treatment of a person or animal". What is cruel specifically about setting expectations about what needs to be done? There is nothing cruel about requiring kin to call you sir especially when you can show that you deserve their respect.
3. nyolfen ◴[04 Sep 18 03:23 UTC] No.17906391[source]▶
sorry, do you have any actual evidence for the claim that saying 'sir' and child abuse are correlated, or just some prejudicial hunch?