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My stages of learning to be a socially normal person

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631 points eatitraw | 1 comments | 15 Nov 25 13:24 UTC | HN request time: 0s | source
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porjo ◴[17 Nov 25 22:27 UTC] No.45959121[source]▶
Related: "just be yourself" is horrible advice, on its own, to give a young person. It must be accompanied by an understanding that there is a social game to learn to play, and that "being yourself" is not always compatible with playing the game well.
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1. hexbin010 ◴[17 Nov 25 23:09 UTC] No.45959506[source]▶
Right with you there! All this discourse about 'being you', be anyone you want to be, 'you do you' etc – christ, no! Not unless you understand the downsides to all of that. And they aren't trivial.

People should not dish out that advice so carelessly and wantenly.