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My stages of learning to be a socially normal person

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631 points eatitraw | 1 comments | 15 Nov 25 13:24 UTC | HN request time: 0.311s | source
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hypeatei ◴[17 Nov 25 21:26 UTC] No.45958515[source]▶
The bit about him spilling olive oil onto someone's dress then playing it off with a flirtatious joke seems very strange to me. Maybe it's just my upbringing but trying to pull off a joke like that in a tense situation seems very risky. I would be worried about coming off unserious, indifferent, and sleazy while also stoking an even angrier reaction from the person.
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1. SeanAnderson ◴[17 Nov 25 22:32 UTC] No.45959166[source]▶
I think it was much more about anchoring the other person's response as quickly as possible and less about what was specifically being said. Sort of like speaking first in a negotiation to anchor your salary expectations. Even if the rate you propose is outlandish - doing so shifts the expected response curve in a way that can be useful.