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My stages of learning to be a socially normal person

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631 points eatitraw | 1 comments | 15 Nov 25 13:24 UTC | HN request time: 0s | source
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ajkjk ◴[17 Nov 25 20:02 UTC] No.45957603[source]▶
well they're not normal

but they are getting to the place that "normal" people end up, I think. It seems to be the case that no amount of being in your head is a substitute for just not being in your head in the first place.

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jimbokun ◴[17 Nov 25 20:11 UTC] No.45957717[source]▶
He kind of goes from normal to super-normal, and has to deal with how to handle this outlier social competence responsibly.
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ajkjk ◴[17 Nov 25 20:21 UTC] No.45957824[source]▶
I'd characterize the entire journey as "neurodivergent"

but there's nothing wrong with that, and there are lots of other neurodivergent-ish people (regardless of whether you like that word for it, I just mean "outliers", the sort of people who have trouble with socializing in a way that most people seem to have an easy time with), and many of them could stand to benefit from figuring some of the same things out

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RealityVoid ◴[17 Nov 25 20:52 UTC] No.45958143[source]▶
I think slapping neurodivergent on everything kind of dilutes the word. I had some social challenges growing up, probably still a weird cookie at times, but def would not consider myself neurodivergent, it just feels like a different league of difference to the norm.
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1. ajkjk ◴[17 Nov 25 21:02 UTC] No.45958242[source]▶
i sorta agree but also that's basically just what the word has come to mean. agree that it's a catchall, but also, like, it's definitely not the case that everyone's social experiences are anything like the OPs'; theirs really is a slightly-autistic-coded category of experiences.