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Are you stuck in movie logic?

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239 points eatitraw | 3 comments | 17 Nov 25 12:06 UTC | HN request time: 0.218s | source
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xd1936 ◴[17 Nov 25 15:54 UTC] No.45954688[source]▶
This article should be included in every Professional Development program. This is excellent advice.

I live in an area of the midwest United States where nearly _everybody_ is kind, but severely conflict averse... To the point where it becomes difficult to gauge true intentions. Lack of clarity on everybody's priorities make work far more difficult than it needs to be because everyone here are people pleasers who don't know how to say "no" or "I don't like that".

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1. sys32768 ◴[17 Nov 25 16:50 UTC] No.45955369[source]▶
My mother's side of the family was from the Midwest.

Super polite, agreeable, but almost impossible to nail down with clear communication as to how they felt or what they wanted.

During reunions with that family, it was nearly impossible to get them to say where they wanted to go out to eat.

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2. stronglikedan ◴[17 Nov 25 17:33 UTC] No.45955845[source]▶
> it was nearly impossible to get them to say where they wanted to go out to eat.

Some people just don't care, like me, and can find something to eat just about anywhere. I also dislike choosing where to eat, so my rule is that the pickiest eater gets to choose, and I'm never the pickiest in a group.

3. tuna74 ◴[17 Nov 25 17:35 UTC] No.45955870[source]▶
If you clearly state what you want you end up taking responsibility for that. Say you want to go to X which is a 40 minute drive away and when you get there it is full. Then you will here "Well, you wanted to go here!" and it will be your fault.