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Are you stuck in movie logic?

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239 points eatitraw | 1 comments | 17 Nov 25 12:06 UTC | HN request time: 0.375s | source
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coldtea ◴[17 Nov 25 16:04 UTC] No.45954821[source]▶
The problem is being told those things (e.g. the examples in TFA from Lala Land, Good Will Hunting, etc) often accomplishes nothing. If anything, being told about such issues, even softly and subtly, will make people recoil, be offended, double down, or deny them.

It's only when push comes to shove, or when you get a bitter reality lesson, that you can understand them, or that you can accept and benefit from being told such advice.

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1. dominicrose ◴[17 Nov 25 16:36 UTC] No.45955216[source]▶
Well you are only responsible for your side of a 2-person relationship, no matter what kind of relationship it is. If the other person doesn't react in the best way, at least you tried and maybe that was the best thing to do based on the information that you had.

I guess most people think that it takes two persons to end a relationship but that's not true. It only takes one. If you're not that person, then maybe it's enough to know that it wasn't you because you tried.

Being stuck or being at the end is pretty much the same thing if you never get unstuck.