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448 points eatitraw | 1 comments | 16 Nov 25 10:14 UTC | HN request time: 0.215s | source
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yousif_123123 ◴[16 Nov 25 14:02 UTC] No.45945216[source]▶
I've always noticed that when I'm giving advice to someone or trying to help out, it always feels their problem is easier than whatever problem I have. As someone with some anxiety around things like calling some company to get something done or asking a random stranger for some help in a store, I would gladly do it if it was to help someone else (family member or friend). But when it's for me I find it harder.

I wonder how much psychologically we can be more confident and less anxious when we're doing something for others vs ourselves..

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1. pizzafeelsright ◴[17 Nov 25 15:08 UTC] No.45954242[source]▶
Two things are at play:

The problem with your problem is you have a desired outcome. And the other is you are not required to do the heavy lifting.

One method is to find a way to bless "future me". Future me will thank current me sometime in the future and while current me won't enjoy future me's rewards directly, he will think kindly, instead of with contempt.