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448 points eatitraw | 1 comments | 16 Nov 25 10:14 UTC | HN request time: 0.194s | source
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yousif_123123 ◴[16 Nov 25 14:02 UTC] No.45945216[source]▶
I've always noticed that when I'm giving advice to someone or trying to help out, it always feels their problem is easier than whatever problem I have. As someone with some anxiety around things like calling some company to get something done or asking a random stranger for some help in a store, I would gladly do it if it was to help someone else (family member or friend). But when it's for me I find it harder.

I wonder how much psychologically we can be more confident and less anxious when we're doing something for others vs ourselves..

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1. bob_theslob646 ◴[17 Nov 25 11:31 UTC] No.45952708[source]▶
>I wonder how much psychologically we can be more confident and less anxious when we're doing something for others vs ourselves

Thank you for taking the time to type this up. I would be extremely interested in any sort of research around this and may add( maybe others face the same ) that's incredibly difficult to introspect yourself and solve problems for yourself as easily as you can for others.