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448 points eatitraw | 1 comments | 16 Nov 25 10:14 UTC | HN request time: 0.192s | source

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yousif_123123 ◴[16 Nov 25 14:02 UTC] No.45945216[source]▶

>>45943979 (OP) #

I've always noticed that when I'm giving advice to someone or trying to help out, it always feels their problem is easier than whatever problem I have. As someone with some anxiety around things like calling some company to get something done or asking a random stranger for some help in a store, I would gladly do it if it was to help someone else (family member or friend). But when it's for me I find it harder.

I wonder how much psychologically we can be more confident and less anxious when we're doing something for others vs ourselves..

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1. gamerDude ◴[16 Nov 25 14:32 UTC] No.45945409[source]▶

I imagine it has to do with vulnerability. When you are asking for something or sharing something, being turned down feels personal. When doing it for someone else, it's no big deal if they say no.