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Show HN: I was tired of people dmming me just "hi", so I made this - NoGreeting

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18 points kuberwastaken | 9 comments | 28 Oct 25 09:30 UTC | HN request time: 0.651s | source | bottom

most people on social media don't know how to text

they think starting with a greeting and waiting for a response is kind because that's telephone etiquette, but don't understand that doing that over text is like

someone calling you, saying "hello," then putting YOU on hold.

literally making the other person do extra work to find out what you want.

so I made this website Instead of spending time explaining them this concept (and maybe coming off as very rude), I just keep this in my bio or send them this link when they do.

Pick your name. Pick the greeting trigger. Get a link. (optionally select one of the 16 languages)

They get a friendly explanation of why leading with context matters. You save 10 minutes. Everyone wins.

Train your network to respect your time by being clear about what you need. Life's too short for message ping-pong with strangers.

PS: this builds on the legacy of nohello.net but adds the option of other greetings and adding custom names in the messages

also open source! https://github.com/Kuberwastaken/nogreeting

1. Panzerschrek ◴[28 Oct 25 12:49 UTC] No.45732158[source]▶
There are also people who don't know how to type multiline text. So, they type "hi", send it and immediately continue writing their actual message, possibly with multiple parts separated into several messages instead of single multiline message. So, they destruct their recipients by doing this, since one needs to wait until the whole message is written before starting answering it.
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2. kuberwastaken ◴[28 Oct 25 15:29 UTC] No.45734165[source]▶
somewhat guilty because I do that with texts with people I speak to often too LOL but yeah not the best practice
3. octopoc ◴[28 Oct 25 16:53 UTC] No.45735376[source]▶
I send multi line messages all the time and I frequently accidentally hit enter before I’m done. Then I have to rapidly make edits and save them, hoping everyone sees the frequent updates and realizes messages is still a work in progress. There has to be a better way.
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4. roarcher ◴[28 Oct 25 21:07 UTC] No.45739197[source]▶
I've gotten in the habit of typing any long messages in my text editor first and them pasting them into Slack for this exact reason.
5. twelvedogs ◴[29 Oct 25 01:14 UTC] No.45741454[source]▶
worse are people who wait for a response before writing the actual message

i have not as yet sent someone https://nohello.net/en/ but i've come close

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6. ziml77 ◴[29 Oct 25 02:06 UTC] No.45741797[source]▶
Would be nice if anything that supports multiline messages let you toggle into a multiline mode where enter always puts in newlines and a combo like ctrl+enter sends the message.
7. someonenice ◴[29 Oct 25 03:15 UTC] No.45742217[source]▶
I have that url on my Teams status.
8. unsupp0rted ◴[29 Oct 25 14:43 UTC] No.45747494[source]▶
I have a person in my family who does "..." typing for 15 seconds to 5 minutes just to say "Okay, if you're busy, I'm going to the grocery store".

I didn't need that information.

You just sit there looking at "..." for an indeterminate amount of time not knowing if you can move on.

Frustrating.

And yet I'll miss this frustration so much someday and I never allow myself to forget this fact.

9. az09mugen ◴[29 Oct 25 19:29 UTC] No.45751823[source]▶
When I have a multi line message to send, I always redact and edit it in my favorite text editor, so no accidental send can happen. Plus I have all my shortcuts