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30 minutes with a stranger

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1103 points MaxLeiter | 1 comments | 04 Sep 25 05:56 UTC | HN request time: 0s | source
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alex-moon ◴[04 Sep 25 08:22 UTC] No.45124947[source]▶
I'm increasingly convinced that social isolation is the single great social ill of our time. I am not one for "respecting others' opinions" at all, make no mistakes, if someone believes something incorrect - or worse - then they need to be corrected. But so much of the hate simmering away like a pot about to boil over is the result of loneliness. The evidence on this is startingly clear.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S235215462...

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S027795362...

https://www.psychiatrist.com/news/hate-lies-and-loneliness-f...

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mihaic ◴[04 Sep 25 08:33 UTC] No.45125012[source]▶
It's not just loneliness, it's that by being isolated you can make sweeping generalizations about other people, and fall for the hatefull narative.

When you actually and honestly communicate with people different than you, and are able yo understand them, you stop feeling that simplistic hate for them.

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1. belorn ◴[04 Sep 25 22:03 UTC] No.45132739[source]▶
From the research I have heard and seen on the subject, when people communicate with people different than themselves it can both help and hurt trust. The primary factor that I took from the research is that it depend on ethical values. If the two people are different but share ethical values, especially symbolic ones, then relationships tend to improve. If however people have different ethical values, then the results of such meeting tend to create more hostility and distrust. People can generally accept that people have different ethical values only if they don't need to actually see it.