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1103 points MaxLeiter | 6 comments | 04 Sep 25 05:56 UTC | HN request time: 0.218s | source | bottom
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alex-moon ◴[04 Sep 25 08:22 UTC] No.45124947[source]▶
I'm increasingly convinced that social isolation is the single great social ill of our time. I am not one for "respecting others' opinions" at all, make no mistakes, if someone believes something incorrect - or worse - then they need to be corrected. But so much of the hate simmering away like a pot about to boil over is the result of loneliness. The evidence on this is startingly clear.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S235215462...

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S027795362...

https://www.psychiatrist.com/news/hate-lies-and-loneliness-f...

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rkagerer ◴[04 Sep 25 08:31 UTC] No.45125001[source]▶
I wonder how much of this is due to social media sites and how the choice to interact that way (where the medium is geared to show off shallow facets of our achievements or amplify polarized opinions) is robbing us from traditional ways of spending time together.
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1. heresie-dabord ◴[04 Sep 25 08:39 UTC] No.45125057[source]▶
> is robbing us from traditional ways of spending time together.

The assumption that social-media applications are really social is robbing us of traditional ways of maintaining actual society.

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2. a5c11 ◴[04 Sep 25 09:07 UTC] No.45125197[source]▶
True. It's so hard nowadays to go out with a friend to grab a beer or a coffee. They don't feel the urge because they satisfy social interactions online, and they think it's enough. Well, it's undoubtedly simpler that way, but it's fake.

I, personally, hate chatting through instant messengers. I lost many connections because people started moving online more and more, and I just couldn't handle that anymore. For example, I don't like interrupting what I'm doing, and people usually expect to get a response within minutes. Plus, when I don't respond immediately, I simply forget and remind myself a month later. I could be the problem too, but the way we do communication today doesn't help either.

3. skeezyboy ◴[04 Sep 25 09:14 UTC] No.45125229[source]▶
its the most fuzzy definition ever. the literal sense of social media would mean "mediums of socialising" like instant messengers or forums, but it actually covers pretty much any website or app with a messaging feature. it basically just means "the internet" to idiots
4. immibis ◴[04 Sep 25 10:10 UTC] No.45125542[source]▶
There used to be social networks. You'd tell the computer who you knew in real life and you could talk to them through the computer.

Then it was social media. People could publish things and their friends would see what they did in a single feed. Like TV or radio media, it pushes info to you, about your friends.

Lastly it was just media. It was the same feed pushing stuff to you, but it isn't your friends any more. It's unknown micro-celebrities, ads, whatever keeps audiences hooked and makes profit for the company. Tiktok exemplifies this but they've all done it now.

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5. api ◴[04 Sep 25 10:14 UTC] No.45125569[source]▶
The next step will be removing humans from the loop entirely, a feed of personalized AI generated slop engineered to keep you staring at it.

YouTube and Facebook are almost turning into this organically. YouTube seems to be trying to fight it. Zuck seems to just not care anymore, generally. Eventually one will fully embrace it.

Are there even any social networks anymore? Oddly enough as weird and cringe as it is I think LinkedIn kind of qualifies. It’s business but that’s a form of social interaction that involves real people doing stuff.

I think most social interaction has moved onto messengers, Discord, Slack, etc.

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6. mwcampbell ◴[04 Sep 25 21:17 UTC] No.45132301{3}[source]▶
> Are there even any social networks anymore?

Mastodon?