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Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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271 points surprisetalk | 1 comments | 02 Sep 25 12:56 UTC | HN request time: 0.199s | source
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zwnow ◴[02 Sep 25 13:41 UTC] No.45102996[source]▶
Listen, I am 30 now. Not too old, still missing plenty of experiences in life. But I know what stuff I do not like, and I won't force myself to try and like them.

I hate sports, I tried liking it, did not work out (heh pun intended).

I hate cooking, I try it every other day, I will never like it.

Its okay not to like things.

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kingkawn ◴[02 Sep 25 13:42 UTC] No.45103012[source]▶
How are you an old curmudgeon at 30
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zwnow ◴[02 Sep 25 13:46 UTC] No.45103060[source]▶
Long time depression, father dead at 15, half of family dead since, possibly adhd, moved places like 8 times, poor (thankfully no debt), balding, never had a relationship, constant anger due to the stupidity of other people (when reading comments on news articles as an example), and and and...
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carlosjobim ◴[02 Sep 25 18:59 UTC] No.45107531[source]▶
I've met several people in my life that are like you, at least from what it sounds like in the description you give. Constantly anger and bitter. Probably for good reason, at least initially. And these people were smart people, hard working, honest.

But here's the secret: If you behave like this, then people will only interact with you when they want something from you, leading to an even more bitterness and unfriendly demeanor, leading to even worse interactions with other people.

Instead fake being nice and friendly and people will be nice and friendly with you and after what might feel like forever you will become genuinely nice and friendly. Giving you the possibility to enjoy better people and the better side of people.

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zwnow ◴[03 Sep 25 06:18 UTC] No.45112754[source]▶
This advice basically is "be fake and people will eventually like you" which is one of the reasons im constantly pissed off about other people. I respect authenticity and I do not need people in my life preferring a version of me that's not authentic. Im content with being alone a lot, its preferable for me to having a lot of acquaintances. I have a good circle of friends which is enough.
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1. carlosjobim ◴[03 Sep 25 11:50 UTC] No.45114649[source]▶
The advice is to embrace positivity and you will change yourself fundamentally. Why is it in your mind dishonest to be nice and friendly, and authentic to be angry and maybe cynic? You can get a lot of stuff done and get your way by being friendly, without being in the slightly dishonest or a pushover. Especially when dealing with strangers such as in business or dealing with "authorities". It's the easiest way to get what you need, because people don't want to help somebody who is not friendly.

As for getting mad at stupid people on the internet, you're only getting mad because you expect them to be better. Accept internally that most people on the internet are deranged freaks, or just don't amount to much and the tension disappears and you don't have to be mad. Would you be angry at a cow for being simple minded?