Start with buying the right hardware. Fairphone offers more control over the hardware:
https://support.fairphone.com/hc/en-us/articles/104924762388...
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It pretty much is. The engineering for bringing out a latest-and-greatest device and opening it up is something a small independent outfit can't afford, and the big companies capable of it are not interested in doing it.