The patch that kicked off the current conflict was the 'journal_rewind' patch; we recently (6.15) had the worst bug in the entire history upstream - it was taking out entire subvolumes.
The third report got me a metadata dump with everything I needed to debug the issue, thank god, and now we have a great deal of hardening to ensure a bug like this can never happen again. Subsequently, I wrote new repair code, which fully restored the filesystem of the 3rd user hit by the bug (first two had backups).
Linus then flipped out because it was listed as a 'feature' in the pull request; it was only listed that way to make sure that users would know about it if they were affected by the original bug and needed it. Failure to maintain your data is always a bug for a filesystem, and repair code is a bugfix.
In the private maintainer thread, and even in public, things went completely off the rails, with Linus and Ted basically asserting that they knew better than I do which bcachefs patches are regression risks (seriously), and a page and a half rant from Linus on how he doesn't trust my judgement, and a whole lot more.
There have been many repeated arguments like this over bugfixes.
The thing is, since then I started perusing pull requests from other subsystems, and it looks like I've actually been more conservative with what I consider a critical bugfix (and send outside the merge window) than other subsystems. The _only_ thing that's been out of the ordinary with bcachefs has been the volume of bugfixes - but that's exactly what you'd expect to see from a new filesystem that's stabilizing rapidly and closing out user bug reports - high volume of pure bugfixing is exactly what you want to see.
So given that, I don't think having a go-between would solve anything.
1. Regardless of whether correct or not, it's Linus that decides what's a feature and what's not in Linux. Like he has for the last however many decades. Repair code is a feature if Linus says it is a feature.
2. Being correct comes second to being agreeable in human-human interactions. For example, dunking on x file system does not work as a defense when the person opposite you is a x file system maintainer.
3. rules are rules, and generally don't have to be "correct" to be enforced in an organization
I think your perceived "unfairness" might make sense if you just thought of these things as un-workaroundable constraints, Just like the fact that SSDs wear out over time.
Do you argue with your school teachers that your book report shouldn't be due on Friday because it's not perfect yet?
I read several of your response threads across different websites. The most interesting to me was LWN, about the debian tools, where an actual psychologist got involved.
All the discussions seem to show the same issue: You disagree with policies held by people higher up than you, and you struggle with respecting their decisions and moving on.
Instead you keep arguing about things you can't change, and that leads people to getting frustrated and walking away from you.
It really doesn't matter how "right" you may be... not your circus, not your monkeys.
I think it's less subtle than that. The straw that broke the camel's back was quite literally abuse towards other kernel developers.