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Flunking my Anthropic interview again

(taylor.town)
369 points surprisetalk | 2 comments | 29 Aug 25 14:02 UTC | HN request time: 0.001s | source
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lisper ◴[29 Aug 25 18:38 UTC] No.45067815[source]▶
> I can't turn my weird off

That might be your problem right there. Deciding you can't do something is always a self-fulfilling prophecy. How hard have you tried?

I learned to turn my weird off a long time ago. It wasn't easy. It took many years. It was painful at times. But I did it. If I can do it, you probably can too.

P.S. You might want to think about whether or not turning your weird off is something you actually want. Being normal comes with its own set of trade-offs. But if you are going to keep your weird you should do it because it's something you decide you want, not because it's something you decide you are powerless to change.

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striking ◴[29 Aug 25 18:48 UTC] No.45067919[source]▶
Faking normalcy can often make you more unattractive than being yourself. I suspect that people can sense when someone isn't being genuine about themselves.
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1. Der_Einzige ◴[29 Aug 25 20:47 UTC] No.45069214[source]▶
Not true, and why "be yourself" has died as dating advice.

Do not "be yourself" unless being yourself is attractive. Even "be the best version of yourself" doesn't work if you're a brony or some other socially unacceptable group

This kind of shitty blue pill advice is why MAGA, the manosphere, etc are bigger than ever. The rise of fascism is walking on a grave of blue pills.

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2. striking ◴[30 Aug 25 15:33 UTC] No.45075505[source]▶
lol relax. I'm not saying people should never change or that they're all perfect the way they are. I'm saying the opposite: if you want to be an attractive, interesting person, and you're not that person yet, you need to spend the time and energy necessary to actually change rather than faking it. You don't have to drop your existing hobbies (e.g. being a brony is fine) but it's nice to also have a few others you can share with others (e.g. getting into running or music or something as well).

No, the real blue pill is pretending any of your culture war manosphere shit matters or wasting any time thinking about that, because every second you waste on that is a second you could've spent improving yourself.