Ban me at the IP level if you don't like me

I think a lot of really smart people are letting themselves get taken for a ride by the web scraping thing. Unless the bot activity is legitimately hammering your site and causing issues (not saying this isn't happening in some cases), then this mostly amounts to an ideological game of capture the flag. The difference being that you'll never find their flag. The only thing you win by playing is lost time.

The best way to mitigate the load from diffuse, unidentifiable, grey area participants is to have a fast and well engineered web product. This is good news, because your actual human customers would really enjoy this too.

My friend has a small public gitea instance, only use by him a a few friends. He's getting thousounds of requests an hour from bots. I'm sorry but even if it does not impact his service, at the very least it feels like harassment

Yes and it makes reading your logs needlessly harder. Sometimes I find an odd password being probed, search for it on the web and find an interesting story, that a new backdoor was discovered in a commercial appliance.

In that regard reading my logs led me sometimes to interesting articles about cyber security. Also log flooding may result in your journaling service truncating the log and you miss something important.