> everybody thinks they have minor version of disorders, because we all do, we live on continuums, and therefore we should probably all think about it more
I think this is subtly incorrect. I would phrase it this way:
> everybody thinks they have minor version of disorders, because we all do... And they think that makes them different and therefore deserving of special treatment.
We all live on continuums of mental health, and reflecting on that is important. But it's unrelated to what's happening here, there's not much reflection, just self labelling and demanding special treatment based on these labels.
Someone strongly on the autism spectrum absolutely needs special treatment, some just a little, some a lot.
But somebody who watches a TikTok about autism and recognizes, or thinks they recognize, similar behaviors in themselves, does not need it (except in the few cases where it is actually undiagnosed autism, of course, but that's a very small minority).