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_benton ◴[] No.44485177[source]
Fascinating article. It's think the author's experiences are fairly context-dependant, with where you live, the political leanings of your social circle, your online community etc. But I have noticed an increase in the pathologizing of normal human behaviours and traits. Maybe not all character flaws should be fixed.
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supportengineer ◴[] No.44485391[source]
You mention a resistance to pathologizing normal human behaviors. That could stem from early experiences where you were perhaps judged or misunderstood for simply being yourself by caregivers, teachers, or peers. If, as a child, you were expected to conform tightly to rules or suppress emotions, you might now feel protective of traits that others try to label or correct. Therapy can be a space where that defensiveness is explored gently, not to shame you, but to give voice to the younger parts of yourself that may have gone unheard.
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1. dgfitz ◴[] No.44485432[source]
Having gone through therapy for 10 years, nah. Having someone tell you what you already know isn’t helpful, unless you have a need to feel heard. Most people just know the bottom line.

I still go to therapy. It isn’t helpful.

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2. yoz-y ◴[] No.44485488[source]
Why go then?
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3. dgfitz ◴[] No.44497172[source]
Because sometimes you just need somewhere to be.