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aspbee555 ◴[] No.44464757[source]
I felt like I was dying at 35 years old, my body was completely betraying me, exhausted, constant pain, no life as absolutely no energy on days off and still exhausted starting the next week. Even years in the Army never left me feeling like that

I had no idea it was the misery of the IT job that was causing most of my pain and suffering, and it had nothing to do with the job itself, it was the endless insanity of everyone else around me doing exactly what they were informed would cause problems instead of having discussions with people that actually knew how shit worked. I was endlessly picking up everyone elses mess and treated worse than a pile of shit all because people were incapable of having a speck of respect for other people since all their hatred for computers fell on me

I GTFO of the career of misery and took half a decade to finally start feeling better

I have now spent years and countless hours working on software and I greatly enjoy doing this work again and find I get even more done than I used to simply by doing life the way I need to instead of how some backwards/abusive control freak "needs it done"

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jdbsbsndn[dead post] ◴[] No.44465381[source]
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aspbee555 ◴[] No.44465417[source]
the owner instructed everyone not to talk to me, I found out years later

if it was a me problem then they would not have let the then president of the company go for working with me

I was not the one with communication problems but people are really good at blaming me for their own problems

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1. chairmansteve ◴[] No.44468194[source]
"the owner instructed everyone not to talk to me, I found out years later".

The guy was a sociopathic narcissist. I have been in similar situations a couple of times, thankfully not for too long.

The way I knew it wasn't a me problem, was that they later turned on other people in even more damaging and toxic ways. Also I have had a long career in many different environments where I was very appreciated.

I think they felt threatened by me first because I was quietly confident and independent minded. Not sure though.

If you come into an environment with a narcissistic and charismatic leader but you are an independent thinker, watch out...,