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1. gdgghhhhh ◴[] No.44467637[source]
In this context, this is worth a read: https://hachyderm.io/@josefbacik/114755106269205960
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2. wmf ◴[] No.44467822[source]
A lot of open source volunteers can't really be replaced because there is no one willing to volunteer to maintain that thing. This is complicated by the fact that people mostly get credit for creating new projects and no credit for maintenance. Anyone who could take over bcachefs would probably be better off creating their own new filesystem.
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4. ajb ◴[] No.44467931[source]
Ehh. I don't think Kent is an arsehole. The problem with terms like "arsehole" that is that they conflate a bunch of different issues. It doesn't really have much explanatory power. Someone who is difficult to work with can be that way for loads of different reasons: Ego, tunnel vision, stress, neuro divergence (of various kinds), commercial pressures , greed, etc etc.

There is always a point where you have to say "no I can't work with this person any more", but while you are still trying to it's worth trying to figure out why someone is behaving as they do.

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5. bgwalter ◴[] No.44469391[source]
People who go on holier-than-thou rants like that are usually extremely unpleasant to work with and will cancel you (as directly admitted in that post) if you contradict them on anything.
6. skissane ◴[] No.44469461[source]
> The problem with terms like "arsehole" that is that they conflate a bunch of different issues.

Agree, plus I’d add: if we are going to criticise other people’s communication style/abilities or attitude, then using a vague, vulgar and hurtful slang term like “arsehole”/“asshole” (and similar slang such as “dick”, “prick”, etc) is an example of exhibiting the very thing one is complaining about in making the complaint, which is fundamentally hypocritical. One can state the same concerns in a more professional way, focusing on the details of the specific behaviour pattern not a vague term which can refer to lots of distinct behaviours (e.g. people with ASD traits who hurt the feelings of others because they honestly have trouble thinking about them, versus people with antisocial or narcissistic personality disorder traits who knowingly hurt the feelings of others because they enjoy doing so) - labelling the behaviour pattern not the person, acknowledging that it is entirely possibly due to an unintentional skills gap, (sub)culture clash, differences in life experiences, neurodiversity/neurodivergence/mental health/trauma, etc.

I also think it is helpful when criticising the flaws of others to try to relate them to one’s own, whenever possible - e.g. sometimes in the past I did X and from my perspective it looks like you are doing something similar-hurtful labels are not encouraging that kind of self-reflectiveness at all, they promote the idea that “I’m one of the good ones but you are one of the bad ones”

7. heavensteeth ◴[] No.44469629[source]
Whether or not you agree with Kent on this, you have to commend that he tends to be very active in discussing issues with the community in a fairly open, calm, and thought out way (at least from what I've seen).

Comparatively, I find subtweeting him from the sanctity of Mastodon, with a few insults and backhanded complements thrown in for good measure, a bit low.