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176 points esher | 3 comments | 25 Jun 25 19:42 UTC | HN request time: 0.429s | source
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tonymet ◴[25 Jun 25 21:37 UTC] No.44382041[source]▶

  There was a dream that was having a social life. You could only whisper it. Anything more than a whisper and it would vanish, it was so fragile.

  -- Marcus Aurelius
Relationships and things that matter are spontaneous. When you try to optimize them into calendars, checklists & databases -- they become lame and fall apart.

It's half the reason people aren't social. They try so hard to "schedule a meetup" and the meetup becomes work so people stop hanging out.

You're just supposed to show up at someone's house and do shit.

You don't make friends by agenda. You have cool experiences , build trust and develop a bond.

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SchemaLoad ◴[25 Jun 25 23:06 UTC] No.44382630[source]▶
There's a few furry events in my city which are basically "This pub, this day of the week every week". You don't bother working out who is going, how it fits in to everyones schedule. You just go if you feel like doing something that night and there will be people there.

I've got a few friends who I don't even have the contact details for, If I want to talk to them I just go out to whatever the current event or party is and they will probably be there.

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1. xeonmc ◴[25 Jun 25 23:46 UTC] No.44382857[source]▶
I don’t suppose these events enforce any dress code?
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2. SchemaLoad ◴[25 Jun 25 23:49 UTC] No.44382871[source]▶
They usually aren't that structured and for some of them they don't really even have someone who runs the event, it's just self perpetuating that people know other people will be at this venue this day. So any kind of rules would just be the rules of the pub or venue itself.
3. kayodelycaon ◴[26 Jun 25 14:12 UTC] No.44387630[source]▶
No more than any other meetup in public.

Any rules are more like do not wear bondage gear next to a playground at a local park.

(This isn’t as clear as you might think. No one really bats an eye at superhero costumes. A leather catsuit with a tail, chains, and pup hood does not have the same reaction.)