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tonymet ◴[25 Jun 25 21:37 UTC] No.44382041[source]▶

  There was a dream that was having a social life. You could only whisper it. Anything more than a whisper and it would vanish, it was so fragile.

  -- Marcus Aurelius
Relationships and things that matter are spontaneous. When you try to optimize them into calendars, checklists & databases -- they become lame and fall apart.

It's half the reason people aren't social. They try so hard to "schedule a meetup" and the meetup becomes work so people stop hanging out.

You're just supposed to show up at someone's house and do shit.

You don't make friends by agenda. You have cool experiences , build trust and develop a bond.

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9283409232 ◴[25 Jun 25 21:52 UTC] No.44382142[source]▶
Where I grew up, just showing up at someone's house unannounced was a faux pas. Scheduling in advance was the only way to do shit.
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tonymet ◴[25 Jun 25 21:58 UTC] No.44382171[source]▶
Was it booked or was it “hey you home” and you head over?
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1. 9283409232 ◴[25 Jun 25 22:18 UTC] No.44382305{3}[source]▶
A mixture of the two. "Cool if I come by later" or "wanna go to PLACE Friday".