Why some friendships end after kids come into the picture

None of this fits losing a lifelong friend that lives in another state now, which is what happened to me after having kids recently.

I suspect in my scenario it was his lack of having kids and the ability to do so (they are not able to have kids). Best I can tell is it was painful for him to see / hear about my life with kids now.

Because our relationship had become long distance it mostly centered around long phone calls or gaming / vr sessions together ever month or so. I basically stopped trying to schedule these interactions because it became clear it was having such a negative impact on his emotions. I initially tried to avoid talking at all about kids and all that but it didn’t seem to help the situation.

Anyway that’s what I just went through and at this point I don’t know if we’ll ever connect again, it’s been 6 months since we exchanged emails, which used to be daily / multiple exchanges a week.

As the guy on the other side of this. I had a few great friends known since 8th grade. Once they had kids, I have nothing in common to talk to them about. Still love when I heard just a whats up. But also know feel the shift in their priorities. And also when you have all the time and have to schedule very far out to see a friend who has no time due to family, it just kind of naturally makes it harder.