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Why some friendships end after kids come into the picture

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35 points mooreds | 1 comments | 18 May 25 12:26 UTC | HN request time: 0.201s | source
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JoeAltmaier ◴[18 May 25 13:45 UTC] No.44021386[source]▶
Non-parents have no clue. Example: a young friend said Let's go to the fair! OK, it'll take some assistance to watch the stroller while changing the baby, some time in the shade to feed her. Get the baby there, in the stroller. Five minutes later, the friend sees other friends, not encumbered, and See you! and she's off. Leaving me to pack up the baby and go back home.
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1. mooreds ◴[18 May 25 14:32 UTC] No.44021688[source]▶
One time with we went to brunch with our small children. We were meeting 4-5 folks without kids.

We arrived at the brunch place 5 min late, thinking we'd done a pretty good job. One other friend arrived around the same time, but everyone else was an hour late. Because of the kids, we ended up not eating with them at all.

It's rude to your friends to be late when you don't have kids, but when you have small kids on a schedule, it's impossible to adjust.