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Why some friendships end after kids come into the picture

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35 points mooreds | 2 comments | 18 May 25 12:26 UTC | HN request time: 1.567s | source
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Elaris ◴[18 May 25 13:57 UTC] No.44021465[source]▶
I really resonate with this. Since having a child, most of my time revolves around them. There’s no time for myself, no time for friends. The friends I used to be close with have slowly drifted away. I’ve been living like this for three years now, and while watching my child grow up fills me with happiness, there are moments when I feel lost. It’s like I’ve lost a bit of myself along the way. I wonder if anyone else has felt this way, and how they’ve managed to find balance between being a parent and staying connected to who they were before.
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1. number6 ◴[18 May 25 14:09 UTC] No.44021541[source]▶
You will have about 4 or 5 years until they grow independent and have their own friends.
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2. mooreds ◴[18 May 25 14:30 UTC] No.44021668[source]▶
This!

I'm in the middle of this path of independence with my kids and it is bittersweet. (I too felt the weight when they were younger.)

Those small, common moments of love and intimacy you get when your kids are small fade away and become infrequent. Stuff like hugs, them wanting to hang around you, them doing things with you just to do things with you. Still amazing when they happen, though.