"I wonder why people never complained so much about JavaScript not having shared-everything threading"
Mainly cause Python is often used for data pipelines in ways that JS isn't, causing situations where you do want to use multiple CPU cores with some shared memory. If you want to use multiple CPU cores in NodeJS, usually it's just a load-balancing webserver without IPC and you just use throng, or maybe you've got microservices.
Also, JS parallelism simply excelled from the start at waiting on tons of IO, there was no confusion about it. Python later got asyncio for this, and by now regular threads have too much momentum. Threads are the worst of both worlds in Py, cause you get the overhead of an OS thread and the possibility of race conditions without the full parallelism it's supposed to buy you. And all this stuff is confusing to users.