Stop being so different and try to match what companies are looking for.
Remote only.
Single letter surname.
This constraint, that constraint, you’re getting the answer you are telling the market to give you.
Yes there are now significant barriers you face: x months not in a relevant role, laid off, 20 years in the industry without a management role.
If you’re pitching yourself against people who have 3-5 years experience, will work 50-60 hour weeks coz early in career and lifestyle unencumbered, it’s not going to go your way.
That means you have to go the extra mile to fit what is wanted.
And yes, that likely means significant drop in salary / attractiveness of role / commute etc.
Maybe there just isn’t the work where you are and you will need to move, maybe your mother too.
Talk to people in the industry you know and trust about this, not HN.
I’ve been in similar situations, currently in a very tech role at 62, but that’s not usual.
Wish you the best