[0] https://github.com/grassmunk/Chicago95 [1] https://garudalinux.org/editions (screenshots don't do it justice)
Once they finish sucking donations and other forms of financial support they'll probably announce it's time to "sunset" Gnome/gtk because it sadly didn't met unspecified expectations of unspecified group of people.
Gnome team, what they did and what they still want to do, their attitude towards users - especially those who dare to criticize them is THE result of polluting FOSS with corporate style of software development.
Theming and customization of Linux is half-dead because of what happens at Gnome.
To make my biases clear: I'm a software developer that uses Gnome daily, and is developing a GTK/Adwaita app. I used to rice a lot back in the i3 days, but I don't particularly care about that nowadays, and stick to the defaults when I can. For my purposes, GNOME and Adwaita is perfect since it's very opinionated by default, and you can make good looking apps with minimal effort. Since all Adwaita apps are supposed to look similar and follow the same HIG, most of my desktop apps have the same look - but more importantly, the developers of the apps can also be confident that their apps look correct on my desktop. This is something that developers in the GTK space generally want, and for good reason[0].
One argument is that you as a user of the desktop should be able to have the final say on how your apps look, which is a totally valid take! And there are DEs, WMs, and apps which give you this freedom like Hyprland. But this doesn't guarantee that those apps will look good, or look consistent with each other, or even act consistently across apps. On the other hand, I as an app developer want to guarantee that my app looks good on your desktop, and the easiest way to achieve that is to target a single desktop environment, rather than an infinite combination of possibly-similar-but-maybe-completely-different desktops. Every preference has a cost[1][2], and when you take this philosophy beyond just preferences and expand it to color schemes, padding, margin, iconography, typography, it becomes unmanageable.
This isn't to say that GNOME is perfect, and I disagree with the project on some fundamental technical things like not supporting xdg-layer-shell[3], and refusing to accommodate server-side decorations for apps which don't want to render decorations themselves. (On the cultural side I can't comment, since I have no experience with that.) But in my opinion, this is the project that can deliver a usable and consistent Linux desktop to the average person the most effectively.
[0]: https://stopthemingmy.app/
[1]: https://blogs.gnome.org/tbernard/2021/07/13/community-power-...
[2]: https://ometer.com/preferences.html
[3]: https://gitlab.gnome.org/GNOME/gnome-shell/-/issues/1141
Aside from that, consistency and themability are not at all mutually exclusive. Back in the early days of OS X, theming by hacking system resource files (or patching them in memory via haxies[0]) was quite popular and for the most part, worked very well — generally, the only apps that didn’t play nice with themes were those sitting in the uncanny valley between native and custom, using bits of both, which tended to not be the highest quality applications anyway. This was way before Apple started pushing devs to parameterize their apps, too, and so similar theming capabilities today would work even better since themes can just tweak the parameterized fonts, colors, etc as needed to maintain coherence and usablity.
The real problem with GNOME/GTK is simply that it wasn’t designed with user customization in mind even as a remote possibility. A UI framework that did keep these things in mind combined with a strong dev culture of parametrization would make for a desktop that’s both customizable and consistent.