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Half the men in Seattle are never-married singles, census data shows

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118 points blondie9x | 2 comments | 13 Apr 25 14:36 UTC | HN request time: 0.001s | source
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jandrewrogers ◴[13 Apr 25 15:15 UTC] No.43673380[source]▶
Anecdotally, among the people I know in Seattle, many people who have happily been in the same relationship for decades are not married. People are not avoiding long-term relationships, they are avoiding the baggage and fairly rigid assumptions that comes with state intervention in their relationships. There is zero social pressure to be “officially” married so people have no reason to do it for the sake of social conformity. Both men and women are subscribing to this.

I think some of this is a side-effect of many people planning to never have children.

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willidiots ◴[13 Apr 25 15:41 UTC] No.43673584[source]▶
One thing to be mindful of is that this limits your ability to help your partner as you age. State intervention can play both ways.
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1. hobs ◴[13 Apr 25 16:05 UTC] No.43673788[source]▶
Just get someone a Power Of Attorney, while the spouse gets a few more rights the POA is literally acting as You.
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2. WarOnPrivacy ◴[13 Apr 25 17:12 UTC] No.43674257[source]▶
I did 25yr administering my spouse's medical care. Being the spouse routinely greased skids that our PoA would not have.

I saw medical proxy mentioned above. I ran into those routinely but they were always supplied by the service provider. When they showed up it was good news; it meant I would have full discretion with that provider.